Glitter Pens

Renee came home in a half crying and half angry state today.  Why?  Because, 1 of her favourite classmates had 'taken back her words' on lending her some of her glitter pens home  :(.

Being upset, she had raised her voice whilst trying to explain the 'scenario' to me and, whilst trying to calm myself(which is pretty hard for me lately), I said to her : "you don't have to shout at mummy, I'm not the one who upset you"

Renee : "but she promised me that she would ask her mummy yesterday and her mummy had said ok, then she didn't want to lend to me, my work cannot be completed!"

Me     : "still, you cannot shout at me, all you have to do is just to tell me that you're very worried abt not being able to complete your work properly since you have started off with the glitter pens and you don't have them to finish off.   Mummy will surely help you find a way"

Renee : "but I don't have glitter pens!"

Me      : "you forgot we've got lots of glitters left?"

Renee : "but they are different!"

Me      : "don't worry, mummy will help you with it ok?"

Renee  : ".............." (sulking away)

Me       : "this should also teach you not to start any work with anything that doesn't belong to you or something that you don't have"

Renee  : "but she said she'd lend the pens to me after asking her mummy and her mummy had said ok!"

Me       :  "even though she's said she'd lend it to you, but there are times when people might change their mind last minute, you should never depend on others"

Actually, Renee has been asking for a glitter pen(she didn't even ask for a few... :< ) after seeing her friends using them at school.  I didn't see any need of her using it/them at school and I don't want her to develop the habit of asking for everything she see that her friend(s) has, so I got her the notebook(re earlier post) and had told her then, that I'd get her not just one but a full pack of glitter pens + anything else she'd like to have(within a given budget - to be set...) if she does well for her violin.  She hasn't asked for the pen since(after she's jotted down in a list what she'd like to hv)...  But now, I feel rather sad for what she had gone through because of this(and it's not like it's of something we can't afford...) and what makes me feel even worse is that she's actually asked her friend to lend the pens to her yesterday! Had I known earlier that she will need them today.........   :*(

*In fact, I've already wanted to get her some of these pens/markers when she was younger, so she's definitely going to get them the next time we get to the mall, she sooo deserved them!  :* )