When approaching the school's gate, I saw Laoshi went upstairs. I asked 1 of the teachers there if the children were still sleeping and she replied that Laoshi has gone up to check. Apparently, she had actually meant that Laoshi has gone up to wake Renee up 'cos when I followed her up, I saw her trying to wake Renee up, very gently. Too gently I would say, 'cos our dear precious did not even stir, hahahahaha. Laoshi finally gave up and asked if I would like to wake her up myself. I went in as quietly as I could in order not to wake the other younger kids and the 2nd time I tapped on Renee's arm, she woke up with a 'fierce' look but actually she's more shocked than 'angry', like she couldn't believe that 'mommy's here', :).
Then as I was collecting her bag, Laoshi came to inform me that Renee's hand was 'pinched' by a fellow classmate, Li ling and that teacher Diana had left a note in the communication book. From the marks left behind, I would say this girl has got a worser temper and even quite 'vicious'! It seemed that she had dug her nails into Renee's hands when she pinched her and had held it there for quite a while, Geez! Later, at dinner, I asked Renee about the incident and in order to get the whole incident properly, I told her to tell me truthfully what had happened exactly and whether she had snatched the toy from Liling at all. I assured that it'll be alright to just to tell me the truth... She said again that she didn't snatch and had actually asked Liling if she could have the toys or even join her in the play but this girl just pinched her like that, unwilling to let go of, nor share the toy. I asked if she's cried 'cos it obviously hurt quite abit since the marks are still very visible, even now and 1 even showed abit of peeled-off skin when I first saw it. She told me that she had not cried but had gone to teacher Diana about it. The story ran on and some part of it was quite funny 'cos there was another girl, Rachael who also likes to pinch others...- ok, not going to elaborate here since it's a different story, lolz.
After we've all had our dinner, I told her that if anyone bullies her like that again, she's got to defend herself. Not to fight back, but she has to learn to defend herself. In this particular situation, she has to 'ward' off the pinch by pushing the girl's hand away. Same applies to anyone who might try to 'hit' her in the future. I recalled some people saying that physical 'punishment'(let's not confuse punishment with 'abuse' here but it's totally necessary on the kid(s)'s really really naughty days) will teach the children violence and this case I think, was a scenario to prove it otherwise. Even when daddy was guiding her physically on how to ward off these 'attacks', she didn't even register a hard enough defence, aiyoh and daddy had to go through with her a few times to ensure that she'd better defend herself in the future.
The girl, did not apologise, even when teacher diana had told her to...
Here're the marks...
photos taken after shower
This is what the teacher's wrote in the teacher/parent communication book
*the 'medication' part already told us how bad it was...
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