I have earlier, upon the suggestion of her violin teacher, re-introduced the star reward/accumulation card to Renee(with a smaller qty for exchange of rewards). Although she was pre-occupied with playing the notes well then, that she's forgotten about collecting the stars for a while, she recently remembered and had asked for its continuity, heee(she's forgotten to collect again these few days, which actually I find a good thing).
The violin lesson was postponed last minute today but I still brought her to Compass Point so I could get some stuffs from the Popular bookstore there. And seeing the smaller size lollipops at the cashier, she asked for one. I took one for payment and reminded her that she'll get it once she's got a star from Ms Mok for the current song(1 smaller size lollipop for star given to every 'pc of song') but she fussed about having it then and there. She even threw tanthrums on the spot and having fell asleep on the way home, she fussed again when I woke her up upon arrival. I was very angry but we were in the 'open', so I tried to control myself and when we got to the elevator, I gave her a light slap and she cried and apologised.
A few days ago, I've started to give her a star for each night that she went to bed/sleep on her own and it actually makes her 'rewards exchange' faster, so I thought it is perhaps, time for her to learn about 'punishment'. I told her that I'll checked-off(her fav word against me when she's not happy with me - she'll go "I give mommy a check", meaning a 'x') one star off the chart from now on for any misbehavior and it seem to work...for now(hopefully she'll stay 'fearful' of her stars being taken away for a long long time...)
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